Little Miss Haana made this for me 😊. She'll not trade me for a million dollars.
Friday, May 11, 2018
Tuesday, May 1, 2018
Levels of Defense
There are several tactics at play against me these days.
On this last weekend, when I asked little Miss Haana to do something she didn't want to do, she first threw out her first line of defense. Her first tactic is ignore.
She was standing right there barely 10 yards from me, and pretending like I never said anything. It never fails to make me mad. So, i switched from calling her "Gugu", to Suhaana, along with a slight touch of the sinister in my tone.
It must have had some effect. She switched to second line of defense - plead tactic. "Pleaaaaaseee mumma!". Other than being annoying- the pleases are not going to abate until heeded- it also has a psychological impact. The yearning in the pleading, begs to ask how heartless would someone have to be to turn the poor poor child down. "No!", i stuck to my guns. She retorted with "Hmph! Mumma is too mean". I pretend it doesn't matter to me.
Then, her third line of defense - bargain. Maybe she knows my resolve is probably weakening, she now switches to bargain mode. "Only for a little bit Mumma! Only half a video". Again, how could i possibly be so unreasonable so as to turn down such a well meaning, good hearted, desperate plea for videos are that obviously needed for her well balanced, all rounded development! 'Oh, not the half video trap again!', I'm thinking to myself! But this time, i had been fooled just one too many times! "No", i refused.
Fourth line of defense- tantrum. Angry, frustrated crying ensues. Followed by "I'm telling on you". To be honest i find the Im-telling-on-you part totally funny! On occasions when i actually laugh out loud, it only gets the little girl madder.
Somehow, after battling through multiple lines of defenses, traversing multitudes of odds, navigating physical mental psychological tests of time and resolve, after all of that- success is finally mine. Sometimes anyway! And until next time😊